Read a blog that listed the person’s lessons in life….you know da kine? Well, here’s mine! Hopefully, my husband will do one of these lists too (hint hint ;))
Lesson 1. Money does not make the world go round. Love does! In our years together, trying to establish a good foundation for our kids, I’ve learned that when we were poorest was when we spent more on quality time since we didn’t have money to spend on other things.
Lesson 2. Common sense is all you need to make it in this world. My father always said that you can be the smartest (book-wise) and have no common sense, and you won’t make it anywhere. But, on the other hand, you can be completely ignorant in education and still make it if you have good common sense.
Lesson 3. Live honestly. If you have secrets, what about your life could possibly be real? If you are honest with yourself, you can find it in yourself to be honest with everyone else. However, if you are dishonest with others, how can you truly be honest with yourself?
Lesson 4. Be yourself! Take the qualities you admire of others and apply it to yourself. But, be you! It takes a lifetime to learn about you. Why not start now?
Lesson 5. No one can make you feel inferior, stupid, unkind, unworthy….you get the point! Own you! Own your thoughts, own your actions, own your ideals. When you take responsibility for you, all else just naturally falls into place.
Lesson 6. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. The Golden Rule….and rightfully so. One of the greatest accomplishments in my life is to always, and I mean ALWAYS be able to put myself in another’s shoes. It avoids me making judgement, it brings answers to my questions, and it brings peace to me despite what it may do to the other person who does not apply this rule.
Lesson 7. Kill them with kindness. This one is something my mother has instilled me and I am still learning. No matter who the person is, how badly they do you wrong, be kind. It makes you the better person and, if nothing else, makes them wonder what you could possibly be thinking!
Lesson 8. Keep your promises! Perhaps the greatest asset that a man (or woman of course) can acquire is the ability to keep his or her word. Don’t make promises you cannot keep, don’t offer help you truly aren’t able to offer, and don’t say anything you do not mean. I’ve been pretty good at this one, but still need some work.
Lesson 9. Family is important. This means husband and wife, parents and siblings, so on. When everyone else is walking out the door, these people will be the ones to be walking in to save you. Every family has its problems. In the end, family is all you’ve got!
Lesson 10. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Boy is this something I need to work on. I analayze and try to read the situation in detail and get caught up in the details when it can be something so simple. I’m slowly learning, with the help of my wonderful husband, to just brush it off my shoulders, let things happen, and not get worked up with trivial things. a good question to ask in any situation is this…. “Is this going to make a difference in my life in 5 years? 10 years? Next year even?”.
Finally, perhaps it is not a lesson and doesn’t require a number 11. It ties all of these into one simple sentence. EVERYTHING HAPPENS FOR A REASON. Jun and I have both learned that even if we don’t quite understand why something horrible would happen to us right now, the time always comes when it is made clear. Sometimes, it’s as simple as there needs to be a little bad to balance out the good. Sometimes, it’s so real and tangible that the reason for something happening is because what goes around….exactly what goes around….always finds it way back around. No matter the reason, there IS a reason for every single thing that God allows to happen to you.
Hope this brought some kind of good to at least one person that reads this. If it does, then my goal here is complete. Love, I hope you do this too when you get time. I love you.
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